Dare to Blossom Life Coaching with Mary Lunnen

Welcome, welcome dear friends, welcome to the first newsletter for 2019, wishing you a wonderful year ahead

Reflections: Cycles and Changes

As the old year ends, and the new begins, I notice that some things repeat each year. Some cycles begin again: the seasons, the months, even some of the events I plan, such as the workshops at the Blue Lotus, here in Cornwall.

Other things change, for each of us is a year older than we were at the beginning of 2018. In truth, everything changes. Even as some things may seem to remain the same, they are subtly different each time around the wheel of the year.

As I pause to reflect on how to continue my thoughts here, I remember that December's 'Reflections' were entitled 'Full Cycle'. How interesting, though maybe not surprising, that in the closing month of the old year, and the opening month of the new, my mind is drawn to similar themes. (A note here: I have been experimenting with the layout - and I find that this looks good on my iPad, but not on the laptop, so my apologies if that is your experience too.)


Season's greetings
Reflections: Full Cycle

Plans for 2019
Events and ways to Dare to Blossom

Welcome, welcome dear friends, welcome to the newsletter for December

Season's Greetings

However you celebrate at this time of year, or if you choose not to at all, the ending of the calendar year has some significance for most of us.

Maybe you are reflecting on the end of an academic year if you are in New Zealand or Australia, looking forwards to the summer holidays. Maybe you are anticipating all the busy-ness and connections of Christmas with family and friends. Or, you may be alone, through choice or through circumstances. 

However you are spending December, I send you warm virtual hugs and greetings.

Reflections: Shifting Seasons
Silver Tent Radio Interview with Joni Advent Maher
Ways to connect and Dare to Blossom
News on my new book "The Pathway to Power"

Reflections: Shifting Seasons

October, here in Cornwall, is harvest time. Wherever you are in the world there is a feeling of change. The seasons are stifting. From summer to autumn, or from winter to spring. Both shifts are equinoxes, the time when the hours of day and the hours of the light are (approximately) equal.

At these times, whether spring or autumn, the weather often becomes wild and stormy. That has certainly been the case here in Cornwall this autumn. We have experienced several days of vigorous winds, heavy rain, and pounding seas on the coast.

Today, that has all cleared, the weather fronts have passed away as the atmosphere of this magical planet swirls around us.

Out on the cliffs today the air feels different; the grass is already greener, regrowing after the dry summer. The sea is calmer, yet full of movement and energy. 

Reflections: Fresh Beginnings
Inspirational video
Ways to connect and Dare to Blossom
New edition of "The Essential Guide to Cervical Cancer"

Reflections: Fresh Beginnings

September - for many, a return to school, or to work, or other study after a summer break. A time of fresh beginnings: maybe new surroundings, new friends, new colleagues.

This week, (as I write it is the last week of August), I received one of those 'Facebook memories' telling me it was nine years since I began a new job on 25th August 2009. This was with Outset Cornwall, a new programme to provide 'business start-up support' in the county. In March that year I had been made redundant from a local college when an earlier version of such a programme had come to the end of the funding.

In all I spent twelve years doing that sort of work in the two organisations. It was a joy and a privilege, and a time of deep learning and some uncomfortable lessons too.

In June 2015 the second contract with Outset Cornwall ended and most of us were made redundant. I decided to focus on Dare to Blossom Life Coaching, which I had been running and developing all that time alongside being fortunate enough to be paid as an employee to be a business coach and trainer. Despite being offered work back with Outset Cornwall a year later when the programme restarted in a different form, I took the decision to create my own work, to follow my heart more truly than I found possible as an employee. Another fresh beginning.

A note to add here: I have also followed my heart in the jobs I have done over the years, for example, following my experience or cancer, when I moved into health research and took a cut in salary. Fortunately, many people are able to do change roles and follow their hearts in organisations, as not everyone is suited to self-employment. In my business coaching roles, even though one of the 'measures' was the number of people who started a business, I felt the coaching had been a success when someone realised that this route was not for them. In my private coaching, a key theme is to 'start where you are' and examine what can be easily changed to make wherever that is a more fulfilling and happier place for you, before embarking on any big changes.

When I look back on the three years and three months since then - so much has changed, emerged. So much has truly blossomed for me, and through my work, for others. As I prepare new offerings for September; as I continue to work on my new book; as so many ideas flow around me - sometimes all those potential new things, fresh beginnings, can feel overwhelming. And so, it can be valuable to look back, to see how far I have come. To notice how I did that: one step at a time. Sometimes those steps were sideways; sometimes backwards; sometimes retracing, back to a fork in the road and making a different choice. All along, the petals have been unfurling, row after row, layer after layer.


'Compass Rose Speaks'

I am your Compass Rose. My centre point is Peace. Balancing, grounding.

Look up! Look North, to your Guiding Star. Your Purpose.

From the East comes the rising sun. Passion, potential.

South is the source of nature's powers. The flowing rivers, the rising tides, the ever-changing oceans. The wind that shapes the land. The power that is arising in you.

West is the land of the setting sun. Progressing forwards into the night. Anticipating the promise of a new day.

Return your attention to your centre point, Peace. Balanced, grounded.

I am your Compass Rose. 

© Mary Lunnen 2018

The words are the voice of your guidance system, your inner wisdom. I speak this piece in every online Dare to Blossom Group, in every coaching one to one, at every workshop. I have been asked to share a recording of this.

You can listen on Soundcloud here.


Reflections: The (rocky) Pathway to Power
Inspirational video
Ways to connect and Dare to Blossom
New art commission, and summer art sale

Reflections: The (rocky) pathway to power

This month I am deep in writing for the new book. Since July's newsletter the title has changed, from 'Stepping into Your Power', to 'The Pathway to Power'. The content and the form of the book seems to keep shifting too. Every so often I feel that I am stumbling along a rocky path. In truth, some of those rocks are boulders, too big to see around, or over, to the other side, to see where the path may continue.

As I write that, the phrase: "Maybe the obstacles in your path are your path?" comes into my mind. So, maybe some of the rocks I feel I am stumbling over are actually the parts that have the deepest message? For me, and for others when I find the courage to share. I keep being inspired by the words from one of the critical friends who read my first coaching book* :

"Dare to be you, stop hiding behind the coaching, challenge the readers to dare to be themselves."

Here I am, ten years later, responding to that challenge. Thank you if you read this.

*(Dare to Blossom: Coaching and Creativity,  signed copies are available direct from me)