Dare to Blossom Life Coaching with Mary Lunnen

Reflections: Vision + Sanctuary
New programmes April (Early Bird discount ends 31st March), and June
Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom Saturday 10th April
From my archives: April titles poem
Dare to Blossom Art: a chance to browse before a price increase

Re the taster circles: If you see this in time, you are warmly invited to join us at a taster circle for "Vision + Sanctuary: Be Powerfully Yourself": They are on Monday 29th March at 7.15 pm UK time, or on Tuesday 30th March at 9.30 am UK time. Again, contact me to receive the Zoom link to join us. You can read more below.

Reflections: Vision + Sanctuary
When I came to look back at the last newsletter, I couldn't believe how much has happened since I wrote at the end of February. Then I wrote about 'Be Powerfully Yourself', and that was also to be the title of my April offering. 

During March, I have hosted the short four week Circle, 'Space to Be: Space to Breathe', with a delightfully supportive small group. That experience has given me that space, to be, and to breathe, and to let the ideas for the April programme to grow and expand. 

As that happened I connected my two words of the year for 2021 'Vision' and 'Sanctuary' with the Compass Rose, and with being powerfully myself. I now see Sanctuary as a similar place as Peace, the centre point of the Compass Rose. When I am myself feeling grounded and centred, then I also have a strong sense of peace, and of sanctuary. From that doubly powerful place, I can step out, I can connect with any point, any part of the Compass Rose, whilst staying grounded.

Looking west from Morte Point, North Devon

2021 programmes, starting with 'Space to Be, Space to Breathe' on 1st March
Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom Saturday 6th March
From my archives: March titles poem

Reflections: Be Powerfully Yourself

Just now, as I sit to write for you this month, I notice how I feel. Not particularly powerful. And, - now I am noticing - not really 'myself' either. And, what does that mean, 'be yourself'? People often say that, maybe when I am anxious, perhaps in the past before an interview for a job. Or, more likely in the recent past, before standing up in front of a group of people to speak. How can I, can any of us, not be ourselves?

I know that often I may have felt that wasn't good enough: I didn't want to be the uncertain, wobbly, Mary who couldn't get her words out. The one who was (still is sometimes) told to 'speak up', 'stop mumbling'. The one who would rather have run away and hidden somewhere quiet. 

And yet, in the years since I named my business 'Dare to Blossom' (and way before that actually), I have been doing just that, responding to my own challenge. Daring to blossom, to speak, to press 'send' when I have written a personal piece here that feels so sensitive that it might wither in the glare of other people reading my words.

If you have been here for a while you may have seen some of that blossoming, that daring. You may have read The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones; you may have been to some of my workshops, or more recently, Zoom gatherings; you may have taken part in daring to blossom yourself during one of my longer programmes. Over the last year, 2020, during that strangest of times, I have been privileged with the company of many of you in all the different Circles I have hosted. My last in-person workshop at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre was on 25th January, since then everything has been on Zoom.

I feel so fortunate that I was already familiar with the technology, with the challenges, and with the huge gifts of being able to share real time conversations with people from all over the world. Following the first group programme this year, 'Your Powerful Voice', which has just ended, and the about to start 'Space to Be: Space to Breathe' four week circle (which I wrote about last week - still time to join us, see more below) - the new six week trip around the Compass Rose will be on the theme of 'Be Powerfully Yourself'.

I will be using the space of the month of March to write the detailed programme, which will begin on 12th April. As I sit now to write to you in the end days of February, with a good Cornish gale blowing outside, I can see the flow. I can see how another process I explored with a group last year (and still do in the open Facebook group), weaving shadow and light, how that is now helping me in stepping forward to be powerfully myself.

(I chose this photo of the power of the ocean. It was taken on my first walk for a while after what seems like weeks of wind and rain. The wind had dropped, the sun was shining, and as you see a huge swell was running. It was even warm enough to sit on a bench for a while and just enjoy. Just being there, being with the power of nature all around me.)

Constantine Bay February 2021

And, yet, sitting here now, again I bump up against that fear, that reticence, about claiming 'power'.

Reflections: Space to Be
Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom Saturday 6th February
From my archives: February titles poem
Taster Circles and 2021 programmes, starting with 'Space to Be, Space to Breathe'

Reflections: Space to Be

'Space to Be', 'Breathing Space' - what do these phrases spark for you? They came into my head as I began writing new ideas for later this spring. In April I will be offering a new six week deep-dive Circle, "Be Powerfully Yourself". I am hugely grateful to Nick Williams for the coaching session where his 'gently challenging' questions helped me appreciate what people receive when they connect with the way I work. I have to say, 'gently challenging' is powerful. As I watched the recording to gain further insights, I could see myself squirming in my seat as my six-year-old self may have done when asked a difficult question by the teacher.

Welcome to the Dare to Blossom Newsletter 
First, may I wish you the best possible year ahead in 2021. I am aware that many people have had the worst of times in 2020, maybe you have had Covid 19 yourself; maybe you are still unwell. Maybe family or friends are; maybe you have lost someone to this awful disease. Maybe you are a key worker and have not had a proper rest for so long, and now find yourself back in the midst of the new upsurge.

Alongside all of that, maybe there were some wonderful moments: nature in her beauty and glory; the kindness of strangers; the friendships sustained even when we could not see each other. My wish for you, for us all, is for a happy and healthy year ahead, and an appreciation of every moment.

Reflections: Weaving the New
Reader Reflections: On The Light Within
More New Artwork 

Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom 8th January
From my archives: January titles poem
Three free Taster Circles and the new 2021 programmes

Reflections: Weaving the New

If nothing else, 2020 has shown me that no one can predict the future. And yet, I can choose how to weave the new into my life. I am so grateful to everyone who has connected with me this year. The last six week deep-dive circle was entitled 'Weavers of Shadow and Light' - and there will be another run of this programme beginning in mid-January, as well as another 'Your Powerful Voice' programme.

As you may have seen in the extra bulletin recently, I am also offering a New Year's Day gathering on Zoom (read on for full details below) where we can explore 'weaving the new' together and welcome in 2021.

As I begin reflecting for myself on this year and all that has been happening, so much has changed. Looking back, around this time last year I was writing the book 'The Powerful Voice of the Quiet Ones - Reflections on an Introvert's Life', which I published in January. For me, it feels a whole new chapter in my life has emerged since then. Such a strange year: In January I hosted the first of the six workshops scheduled at the Blue Lotus Therapy Centre, and intended to flow right through the year to November as usual. That day in January turned out to be my last in-person workshop for the foreseeable future.

In February I travelled to Glastonbury to celebrate my friend Soleira's 70th birthday along with other dear friends. In March I exhibited at the Cornwall Business Show. That was on 12th and we were already aware that we shouldn't exchange hugs or even shake hands. Big announcements were imminent from the UK government, and the show closed early.

Since then I have barely been anywhere except in the local area. I was hugely grateful when lock-down was eased a little and I was able to drive the few miles to my favourite places to walk on the cliffs.  And yet, life has continued. I am so lucky that most of my work was already online or easily transferable. Death continued also. I have not as yet lost anyone close to me to the virus, and yet the deaths that have occurred are made so much more difficult to cope with by the circumstances.  At the same time, I honour every one, every person who has left their body this year (for me personally, that is two family members and several dear friends), and celebrate the gifts they gave me . And still do in the memories and insights that arise in reflection.

Weaving the shadow and light together without judgement of which events could be seen as 'shadow' and which as 'light' has been my way to cope. One of the participants in my groups this year recently sent me this quote: “The brighter the light, the darker the shadow.” from Carl Jung. My first response, as I write now, is to think of the bright lights of those I have lost in the physical world, who are still there, even if not in body, and who I believe are simply shining in a different way. Does that mean that the shadow of my grief is 'darker'? Deep maybe, not necessarily 'dark' - although it is all an interpretation. I find it hard to separate my own assumptions and judgements - those ones so automatic that somehow represent 'light' as 'good' and 'dark' as 'bad'.

If I have learned anything, I know that is not true. One small example is that I love very dark chocolate, and don't like white chocolate at all..... Other people may feel the opposite. And that does not mean one is good and the other bad - just a matter of taste. (Maybe not the best of examples....it could be argued neither is good!)

The beautiful deep shadows in this photograph would not be there without the light...

Reflections: The Light Within
New Artwork 

Dare to Blossom Monthly Circle on Zoom 4th December
From my archives: December titles poem
Two free Taster Circles and the new 2021 programmes

Reflections: The Light Within

What a year 2020 has been.... for all of us, wherever we are in the world. If you have been directly affected by the pandemic, I send love for you and your family.
There have been so many words written about all that, I don't think I will add any more. Instead, when wondering about the theme for this month, as we approach midwinter in the northern hemisphere, midsummer in the south, those words "The Light Within" popped into my mind.

You may well have seen this painting of mine before, possibly more than once. I have various titles for it - sometimes "The Tree of Light", and at others, "The Light Within". It emerged from play with paint and meditation at a workshop with my friend, the talented artist Annie B Roberts At first I had no idea that it would become a tree. When I took the painting home and looked at it for a while, I decided to frame it. For me it signifies simply being, simply allowing the light within to shine naturally out into the world.

New offering: a 'pay as you go' monthly Zoom event, 6th November
From my archives: November titles poem
Reflections: Autumn and Rebirth

New offering: a 'pay as you go' monthly Zoom Dare to Blossom Circle

So, I am sharing this new offering at the top of the newsletter today, as the first event is at the beginning of the month: I have been asked to set up a 'light touch' circle - one where there is no commitment to a regular private group as with my in-depth circles. Of course people receive big insights from those, and - it is not always the time to do that in practical terms. Also, many people, especially those of you who subscribe to my monthly newsletter, do not wish to be involved in groups on Facebook.

This is simply a monthly Zoom gathering, an invitation to a 'pay as you go' monthly circle on Friday mornings at 11.00 am UK time. The fee is £20. As well as taking part, you will receive a photo of the cards I draw for you, and a recording of the call (only sent to those  who are present live). Full details and booking are here, Or simply contact me by replying to this email if you prefer. You can book in advance, or choose to receive an invoice after the event, I will leave that up to you, and trust that if you enjoy the experience you will be happy to offer that in exchange for the love and energy I put into creating the Circle for you.

If it is popular, I hope that a group will gather who would like to meet every month, and I will set up a subscription with a discount for 2021. I have a provisional date of Friday 4th December at 11.00 am UK time for a second meet-up.